After 50 years of marriage, I felt that I knew my wife well. It wasn’t until after she was diagnosed with dementia that I found out that wasn’t necessarily the case. She needed a lot more care than I was able to give and as much as it pained me, I gathered my sons and daughter to our home and explained that I simply couldn’t do it by myself anymore. There was only one choice...we would have to find a nursing home or some type of dementia care home where my wife would be taken care of, 24 hours a day.
Caring for Family
I can’t tell you how many times I had woken up or turned my back and she was simply gone. Though she only got out of the house once, that panic set in each time. I wasn’t trained in nursing, I had no concept of medical care and as much as I loved my wife, I didn’t think I had any other option. My youngest son, however, thought that he had the solution and once we discussed it among the four of us, the rest of us agreed. We were going to choose in home care.
My son’s girlfriend worked at a hospital in the cardiac care unit and they often times sent patients home who still needed significant care. Those patients chose to have a nurse and even doctor, at times, come into their own homes to care for them during their recovery. Though my wife wouldn’t necessarily recover, she would still be able to receive the top care that we could give. Using my son’s girlfriend’s professional connections, we were able to find a wonderful nursing team who could be with my wife 24 hours a day. Best of all, she could continue to stay in our home and with our family.